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Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 16, 2020
I have recurring wet dreams about myself

Straight men question what it means to be heterosexual.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, gay, homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jan 3, 2019
'Please tell me where I can find my porn!'

How Tumblr's ban on NSFW content harms queer and kinky people. Plus: you shouldn't need a "spotter" at a swinger party.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, bisexual, bisexuality, edging, Tumblr, Alexander Cheves, Porn, LGBTQ, swinger, GGG

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 27, 2018
Should she tell the man she's seeing about her new job as an escort?

A woman wonders how much to reveal to a beau, while another questions whether anal sex can ever be pleasurable.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Savage Lovecast, escort, bisexual, bisexuality, anal sex, GGG

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Oct 17, 2018
‘Help, I saw my employee at my favorite masturbation event!’

What's a Jacks-club-loving boss to do? Plus: etiquette for Italian hookups and open marriages
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Jacks club, jacking off, JO club, group masturbation, Alison Green, Ask a Manager: How to Navigate Clueless Colleagues, Lunch-Stealing Bosses, and the Rest of Your Life at Work, Ask a Manager, hookups, local entertainment, open marriage, bisexual, Tinder, swiping right, polyamory, hot wife, threesome

Music, The Block Beat Jul 31, 2018
Video
Chicago rapper Taylor Bennett wants everywhere to be a place black people can be themselves

When he was a teenager, one of his havens was Navy Pier. And this weekend, he’ll make himself at home onstage at Lollapalooza.
- By The TRiiBE
- Tags: The Block Beat, The TRiiBE, Block Beat, Taylor Bennett, Navy Pier, Lollapalooza, Be Yourself, Chance the Rapper, West Chatham, Brother Mike, YouMedia, rap, hip-hop, Water Tower Place, bisexual, Harold Washington Library, Young Chicago Authors, Video

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 23, 2018
What to do when someone horns in on all the action at the orgy

Even if it’s the host. Plus: threesome success and lesbian special guests!
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, water sports, piss party, golden shower, orgy, group sex, piss play, etiquette, threesome, MMF threesome, use your words, special guest star, cis, lesbian, bisexual, queer, sexual identity, bad lesbian

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jan 25, 2018
How to take a fly on that workplace romance

Dan advises an out lesbian interested in a coworker, a sixtysomething would-be lesbian, and more.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, lesbians, lesbianism, dating apps, workplace romance, straight, bisexual, Alabama, Sarah Paulson, Holland Taylor, Ellen Degeneres, Portia de Rossi, celebrity lesbians

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 9, 2017
An anxious poly newbie has panic attacks when the other girl gets more attention

Can this "trio rodeo" be saved? Plus: the Tea and Sympathy Rule amended
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, trio rodeo, polyamory, threesome, bisexual, BDSM, professional dominant, strap-on, the Campsite Rule, the Tea and Sympathy Rule, Tommy Ladd

Columns & Opinion, Identity & Culture Aug 16, 2016
Illinois pastors don’t deserve exemption from conversion therapy ban

Conversion therapy aimed at “curing” queer kids is harmful, fraudulent, and discredited, no matter who’s practicing it.
- By Derrick Clifton
- Tags: Identity & Culture, LGBT, lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer, conversion therapy, reparative therapy, mental health, Youth Mental Health Protection Act, religion, sexuality, faith, sexual orientation, Pastors Protecting Youth, Kelly Cassidy, Faith in America, Equality Illinois, Movement Advancement Project, World Psychiatric Association, American Academy of Pediatrics, American Psychiatric Association, American Medical Association, National Association of Social Workers

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jan 14, 2016
Queer man of color rips into the 'white-painted gay community'

Plus: An Italian bisexual's dilemma
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, racism in the gay community, bisexual, rice queens

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 2, 2015
Gay male gymnast wants to be a piece of meat

And gets burned in the process. Plus: the rarely discussed phenomenon of coming-out remorse
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, kink, dehumanization, Recon.com, BDSM, objectification, polyamory, bisexual, Gaydar, transgender parent, LGBT

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 18, 2015
My boyfriend the jackhammer

Can this dick be saved? Plus: bisexual jealousy, kinky sex with the wrong sort of spasm
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, masturbation, bisexual, polyamory, friends-with-benefits, long-term relationship, hernia, tickle play

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 9, 2015
Kinkster confidential

Advice for a retired rope bondage top, a husband with specialized tastes in lube, a bondage widower, and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, kink, kinksters, bondage shows, cuckold, bisexual, Spunk lube, Great Recession, Craigslist, foot fetish, sx workers, sex work, bondage

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 18, 2014
A Q&A on topics from peeing on the boyfriend to suicide by dungeon

Dan Savage fields audience questions from a live appearance in Seattle.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Seattle, Neptune Theatre, water sports, HPV, molluscum contagiosum, sex club, oral sex, bisexual, S&M, BDSM, glass dildo

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 3, 2014
All about unicorns

Should I become one? Where can I find some (who want to go on television)?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, OkCupid, Los Angeles, Savage Lovecast, unicorn, threesome, bisexual, Oprah, reality shows, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Joan Price

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 29, 2014
Truly a dick move

Plus: Confronting your hyperconservative mother about being queer and playing poker in the sack.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, anal sex, bisexual, cannabis, clitoris, conservatives, Dan Savage, dominant, gym shower, heteroflexible, marijuana, oral sex, pegging, Savage Love, submissive, Texas

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 1, 2014
I'm a boner hobbyist—does that mean I'm bi?

Plus: I'm attracted to trans men—does that mean I'm not gay?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, bisexual, coming out, boners, homophobia, Pew Research, Robyn Ochs, Charles Pulliam-Moore, Thought Catalog, Buck Angel, trans porn, anonymous sex, Craigslist, long distance relationship, open relationship

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 17, 2014
Handling your boyfriend's jealous assholery

Plus: More boyfriends! One who's enough of a man (but not a woman), and one who no longer can get the toes to curl in the bedroom.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, insecure, bisexual, jealous boyfriend, gay men, polyamory, threesomes, sex parties, swingers' clubs, kinks, fantasies, Dan Savage, Savage Love

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 5, 2013
Secret breast left untold

Plus: How bad an idea is it to sleep with your boss's 18-year-old son?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, monogamish, bisexual, drinking game, strip poker, breasts, Uno, Facebook, pegging, anal, Mark Twain, sexually transmitted infections, campfire rule

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 21, 2013
Hearts on fire (upper torsos too)

Plus: Are divergent libidos grounds to end a relationship?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex, virgin, libido, penetration, house party, volcano shots, burns, blindfold, leather, cuckolding, kinks, lesbian, bisexual, threesome

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 25, 2013
Should I marry my roughhousing, possibly asexual, crap-in-bed true love?

More no-brainers from the inbox. Plus: another word of advice for FURFAG.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, straight man, married, Craigslist, Casual Encounters, blow jobs, porn, bisexual, gay, situational homosexuality, SexInfoOnline, Saudi Arabia, gonorrhea, syphilis, fiance, asexual, endocrinologist, urologist, medical attention

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 13, 2013
A relationship gone to pot?

Plus: A military wife strays and a dom’s girlfriend gets nervous.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Afghanistan, bisexual, cannabis, cunnilingus, drinking, drug problem, lesbianism, marijuana, marriage, Michael Douglas, sex, Skype, wedding

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Feb 28, 2013
"Stop cock-in-frock-blocking your friend"

Plus: It’s never too early to start thinking about birth control.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, transvestite, Las Vegas, Kevin Garnett, Europe, gay, bisexual, beer goggles, transgender, Tumblr, sex-reassignment surgery, cross-dresser, drag queens, gynandromorphophiles, high school, virgin, college, birth control, IUD, nonhormonal copper IUD, progesterone-releasing IUD, sexually transmitted infections, condoms

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 23, 2012
Negotiating teenage polyamory

Plus: getting to yes
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex, consent, no means no, yes means yes, opt-in consent, bisexual, LGBTQ prom, cheating, polyamory

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 9, 2012
. . . and sometimes the pooch screws you

Plus: two queer women looking for a third, and a ball-busting follow-up
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, gender issues, bisexual, good boyfriend, screwed the pooch, sex change, threesome, group sex, lesbian relationship, ball busting

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