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Film
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Movie Feature
May 8, 2020
Confinement Film Festival wants you to get creative in quarantine
With HUMP! canceled, a new online fest is born.
By S. Nicole Lane
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Apr 21, 2020
Polyamory during a pandemic
How to quarantine while dating multiple folks
By S. Nicole Lane
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Jan 29, 2020
Stranger things
A threesome-loving boyfriend respects some guy more than boundaries.
By Dan Savage
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Jan 28, 2020
She’d rather have a picket fence than a threesome
When a kinky partner is just told what they want to hear
By Dan Savage
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Dec 20, 2019
Built for monogamy
Instead of opening your relationship, it might be time to end it.
By Dan Savage
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Dec 20, 2019
Do your screw diligence and read the fine print
Plus, what to do when things get bloody.
By Dan Savage
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Nov 20, 2019
How not to be
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Pull-no-punches advice for a self-described campus horndog, and more
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Nov 13, 2019
How not to spoil the swingers party
Or the threesome. Plus: Phimosis. It's a thing.
By Dan Savage
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Nov 6, 2019
Listen up, guys
Advice for would-be allies, ethical affair partners, and successful daters
By Dan Savage
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Oct 30, 2019
Quick hits
Dan Savage advises a dude held back by his small dick, a teacher who wants to moonlight as a sex worker, and more.
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Oct 23, 2019
School for sexual scoundrels
How can inveterate cheaters find happiness? Facing up to facts is a start.
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Oct 16, 2019
A life lesson from the great James Baldwin, and more
Advice on growing up, giving love a chance, and getting rid of Dad's porn
By Dan Savage
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Oct 9, 2019
'Why do straight guys like anal so much?' and other questions from live audiences
After a brief tour of the upper midwest, Dan Savage delves into the queries he didn't get to.
By Dan Savage
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Oct 2, 2019
The Just Say No edition
What happened to the Women's Pleasure Revolution?
By Dan Savage
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Sep 25, 2019
The mind-your-own business edition
Your Republican dad's cross-dressing isn't something you need to talk about with him. Plus: sometimes the bullet dodges you, and more.
By Dan Savage
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Sep 19, 2019
Teach your children well
Advice for parents of precocious bondage enthusiasts, and more
By Dan Savage
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Sep 11, 2019
To fist or not to fist
Depends on your sphincter. Plus: struggling with strapping on
By Dan Savage
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Aug 28, 2019
Bring on the Women's Pleasure Revolution!
A manifesto renouncing male-centered Get It Over With sex, and more.
By Dan Savage
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Aug 7, 2019
Breaking boundaries
Is a stealth act of barebacking forgivable? Plus: an autistic sub seeks advice on his open marriage.
By Dan Savage
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Jul 31, 2019
The seven-year yawn
What's a young married gal—bored with vanilla sex and into BDSM—to do?
By Dan Savage
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Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free
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Jul 11, 2019
Uncle Dan's guide to sticky situations
What to do if you're jealous of your fiance's best friend—who just happens to be his ex—and more.
By Dan Savage
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Jul 3, 2019
Is having a 'thing for Black guys' racist?
How to check that shit. Plus: A room with a view, outside and in.
By Dan Savage
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Jun 27, 2019
Shy gay man seeks secret password to sexual adventure
Turns out that in 'bondage' he's got one. Plus: yes, gay men do tend to have more sex.
By Dan Savage
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Jan 24, 2019
Furry porn, cuckolding, water sports
Advice on navigating consent and pleasure
By Dan Savage
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Dec 27, 2018
What to do if your soul mate refuses to leave his wife
Dan's tips for pumping the brakes and breaking up
By Dan Savage
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